Before entering motherhood, my friendships were those of my 20 year old uni self. I had a great group of friends who I knew I could call upon for a last minute night out. I was a social butterfly and had no trouble at all with meeting new people wherever we or I went and would often form relationships quite easily.
Now I’m in the ‘motherhood bubble’ I look back at those friendships and it’s pretty clear to say that they were an indication of what my priorities used to be! This included lots of nights out, chilled days with the girls and just having as much fun as possible.
It wasn’t long after I found out that I was pregnant that I felt a shift in these relationships. However it’s not all doom and gloom as I am pleased to say some of them stuck around. It did make me realise though that some of the people I’d actually called ‘friends’ over the years didn’t really fit that description.
Embarking on Motherhood is definitely when your friendships are put to the test and this is when I really started to recognise and appreciate those amazing people that I did have in my life.
In the first stages of being a mummy, my time and energy was solely spent on raising and caring for my little Eva (obviously) and suddenly the things I really cared about before such as nights out, drinking, spending my Sunday’s hungover and chilling out with the girls til all hours became a distant memory and it actually didn’t matter to me anymore. The thought of feeling hungover and looking after a baby made me feel sick.
I longed for friends that I could relate to and friends who understood me, my feelings and also where I was coming from when I was turning down an invite.
On the flip side, the friends that have been there for me throughout my pregnancy and who are still in mine and Eva’s life now, most of them don’t have their own children. Actually none of them do! So hats off to those few beautiful women who don’t have children but still GET IT!
All of the above has made me so much more aware of the people I let into my world and the reasons why I’ve cut people out of it. This is because it’s not just my world anymore and in a sense i’m not the priority anymore.
My Friendships Now…
These women are my TRIBE! I’d even go as far as saying these women are my family, and they have taught me what true, authentic friendship looks like.
Thank you for reading,
**This blog post is written in collaboration with the Mother Hen Club! If you don’t know what the Mother Hen club is, It’s a great community for mum’s and mum’s to be to gain support, advice, friendships and much more. Definitely go check them out over on Instagram @motherhenclub or have a look at their website –> Mother Hen Club .